SLTM...13.7.11 CC#4 - The egg lesson

Feed-backs (Best Speaker)

 

- His story got to focus on speech, properly gesture

- Very interesting story, I'm really impressed. I also do like you did for self-satisfaction. Thank you for sharing

- Interesting, easy, touchy

- It's very useful lesson

- It's a good lesson through an egg. Thanks for sharing your life lesson to us and make me think a leadership  (Kyusun)

- You chose a difficult subject, Human relation but well changed it into a easy lesson-giving story.

   your description of Yemen was realy well-prepared. (Will Kim)

- Great speech! the contents surely applied to my relationship with my daughter.

   but in view of speech, more movement(gestures, body speaks) could helped your speech wonderful

- I could focus on him very well. The story was very match well with lecture

- Good lesson. Personly I need chichen thing. You make me impressed a lot

- It was very interesting and also meaningful topic.

  You made very well structured speech. Good Job

- Your speech is alway easy to listen and understand.

   you have very comfortable and coffident speaking manner.

   for the project 4, How to say, the speech was great

 

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July 4th, did not prepare it so delayed it 11th

 

The egg lesson

 

(Intro)

Tonight I would like to share the lesson I learnt from this small egg.

I believe that if you learn what I got from this small egg 

you could save your time and efforts and furthermore you can prevent your emotional waste.

 

Could you hold this egg for me while my speech?

And please give it back when I ask, Okay? ^^

 

(Body)

At 2008 I transferred and involved the Yemen project which was the most harsh and dangerous project in my company at that time.

In fact, I volunteered for it. I thought I needed to change my working place, 5 years at one place made me really got bored and wanted to change.

 

Yemen is very poor and politically unstable country and moreover, weapons like guns, raffle, RPG, anything like that have been spread all over the country so these weaponry are very easy to get. 

For foreigners it is one of the most dangerous countries in the world. Foreigners are easy target for kidnapping and a ransom.    

 

Of cause, I was not the only in that country. I was with my colleagues.

There were about 12 Koreans and among them there was the youngest guy who just joined my company at that time. He was new employee.

He had just got married and his wife was pregnant but he had to leave his wife in Korea, so did I.

I also left my family behind; I didn’t want to bring his family to that much dangerous country like Yemen, and my wife was also pregnant with my second son.

Fellow sufferers sympathize with each others.

 

I took strong pity on him and somehow, I thought, I should help him on all fronts, felt like it was certain kind of obligation on me.

He was not a man of strong character. He was rather introspective and passive person, I thought.

And his English was not so much good, that he kept quiet and restrains himself from expressing what he wanted, how he felt and he could not drive a car.

 

With one more single colleague, in fact, he is sitting back here now….^^

3 of us ended up living together, I drove car for commuting everyday and took care of small chores need to speak English such as making house contracts, etc.

If he had anything troublesome with Korean or Yemeni staffs I interfered and spoke for him.

We lived like that, like a family, more than  one year, living at the same house, having every meal together, spent all the time together...

 

When he needed to go for business trip abroad I usually arranged company car for him to drop off and pick him up at air port so he didn't need to wait outside long time for the car, taking risk outside.

 

But one day I was coming back from Korea to Yemen and landed at airport and looked for the company car but there was no car waiting for me.

I thought the car was on the way to airport to pick me up….waited…waited….but no car showed up.

So I called to the guy and heard his half sleeping voice…so I asked

“Hey, I am back. Where is the car for me?”

And his answer was…

“I didn’t know you are coming back today, why don’t you just take a taxi, it cost not that much”

I was speechless and did not know how to reply to him…I hung up the phone anyway.

 

Taking a taxi in Yemen was not very safe and recommendable thing to do. 

Not a very wise choice but there was no other choice I could do.

If I called to company to arrange the car for me at that time, then I had to wait long at the airport.

It might be more risky….

 

Fellow sufferers not all ways sympathize with each others.

In the cab back to my place I had a second thought about him and me. 

Human relationships!! and I asked to myself....

 

Does he actually ask me to look after him in person? The answer was "No"

Is it my duty or my assigned work to do that? No

Then Why I did that? Who ordered it to me?................ The answer was "Myself"

I did it …….. for the sake of ………………………… (take a pause)

for the sake of..........

My happiness, for my satisfaction..... Not for his happiness. I realized.

 

Have I asked to him that is it okay if I help you or do something for you?.....No, I haven’t

I just wanted do it and being feel good 

Being happy that I am good person to help the weak and felt self-fulfillment by doing good thing.

 

 

Then, the egg comes to my mind…the lesson from egg

What is come to you mind when you think about egg?

Egg scramble? Sunny side up,,,,,^^

Or the hen sitting on the egg and chicks hatched?…

 

Can I have my egg back, please?

 

At that time, this egg taught me that there are 2 sides of egg.

One is from inside of egg shell and the other one is from outside of egg shell.

 

Hens must sit on the egg to make it warm enough to be hatched.

When the chick is about to break out the egg then the hen could help it to break at the same spot of the egg. Not elsewhere…it might hurt the chick.

 

Hens can not and should not break the egg from the outside of egg shell under the name of helping the chick. 

It will kill the chick if it is not ready. Right?

 

What about chicks then?

Chicks have to ready and move first, if she doesn't try to break the egg shell on her own

No hens could help to break it for her.

  

(Conclusion)

 

Let me wrap up my speech.

In our human relationship, from time to time, here and there, we become hens or chick

you can apply it to the any relationship like,,,,boss, junior, senior, or parents and children, husband and wife, you name it

 

when we are the hens, we have to pay warm interests in the egg consistently but you should not break the egg shell from yourself.

you just pay close attention, concern and when the egg is about to break then you can merely help it to break the shell at the same spot, at the same time.

if you don't pay enough attention, you can not notice when the egg is about to hatch.

 

 

If you are the chick inside of the egg and when some hens make you warm enough to break the shell

you have to move first

if you just wait and don't move then you will be rotten instead of being hatched

you have to move, you have to approach  first.

 

That is my egg lesson I learnt from my almost 2 years emotional suffering. anguish.

 

Thank you for your listening.