SLTM...13.7.25 CC#5 -When do you think you are ready to get marry?

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When do you think you are ready to get marry? (Final)

(Intro)

When do you think you are ready to get marry?
If you are already married, then what would you say to your brothers, sisters or your children when they are ready for marriage?

When you meet the Prince or Princess Charming in your life?
Like such a handsome or beautify and very kind, well educated and highly intelligent and most important thing, from a super rich family.....Of cause there are no prince or princess in poverty.

Or more realistically, would you say that you will be ready after you have achieved certain goals? like got a good job at a reputable company or passed a certain exam, career success, business success, etc...?

I am looking at it with slightly different point of view.

Here you go…

(Body)

My first girl friend...I met her at my sixteen, the sweet sixteen in English, two-eight youth in Korean,

She was very pretty girl with big eyes, looking healthy dark brown skin, active, full of energy, taller than me....actually she looked like Ester, Ester keep remind me of her a lot.

I liked, loved her very much and she loved me a lot too.
We exchanged letters a lot, you know at that time no email, no SMS, only letters and talking over the telephone not mobile, went for hiking, and studied together…..doing like that for 5 years.

She was very loyal and faithful to me for that 5 years......but I was not.
I had just become bored. And I thought that was natural to got dull with same person as a human being…

and finally I left her without saying a word to her....and had my second girl friend....I know I was bad...
To tell the truth, She was a friend of my first girl friend.....I know I was the worst.....

Second one was exactly the opposite of the first one.
very pale skin, not active at all, didn't like sport, small eyes with glasses, looked like bookworms.
Only ne thing was same….taller than me…

1 year later after I met the second one, I had to go to Army for my military service....
You know, out of sight out of mind....
I understood it but how come even without the “Dear John letter”… she had just gone..

I was sad, very sad…depressed
but not by the second one….but by the first one

I realized that How much, how deeply I had hurt her mind.

How valuable the person who really love me and cared me
How much gratitude I should have given to her when she was around me.


(Conclusion)

Let go back to the first question I made at the beginning of my speech
When you do think you are ready to get marry?

My answer to this question is that

At least you have kicked away your boy/ girl friend one time
and you have been kicked by the one you loved.

Then now you ready to get marry
Because now you can understand that how valuable the person you love
And also how valuable the person who loves you.

Stay in love
Be thankful for love

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When do you think you are ready to get marry? (1st and 2nd times)

(Intro) 1:40

When do you think you are ready to get marry?
if you are already married, then what would you say to your brothers, sisters or your children that
when is ready for marriage?

When you meet the Prince or Princess Charming in your life?
Like such a hansom or beautify and very sweet, well educated and highly intelligent and most important thing, from a super rich family.....are you going to wait all the way for that prince or princess on the white horse?
Or more realistically, after you have achieved certain goals? like got a good job at a reputable company or passed a certain exam, career success, business success, etc...?

I am looking at it with slightly different point of view
would you like to hear of mine?
Okay, Let me unfold my story before you...


(Body) 7:20

My first girl friend...I met her at my sixteen, the sweet sixteen in English, two-eight youth in Korean,
do you get it? two-eight youth? if you calculate two by eight is sixteen so Koreans describe 16 in this way, two-eight youth.

I met her at the church, without any specific reason I wanted to go to church for the first time in my life at my 16.
I wondered what is religion? what is God, How come the bible can be the bestseller book more than 2,000 years?
I haven't solved the questions, have yet to find the answers for those questions until now but The God allowed me to meet her...My the very first girl in my life.

She was very pretty girl with big eyes, looking healthy dark brown skin, active, full of energy, taller than me....actually she looked like Ester, Ester keep remind me of her a lot.
(Sorry Esther, I don't have any intention to hurt your feeling...if so, please forgive me)

every weekend we met, talking, exchanging letters, went for hiking, went to parks, studied together....we were together all the time....
doing like that for 4 years.....

I liked, loved her very much and she also loved me a lot....
We exchanged letters a lot, you know at that time no email, no SMS, only letters, talking, went for hiking, and studied together…..doing like that for 5 years.

She was very loyal and faithful to me for that 5 years......but I was not.
I had just become bored. And I thought that was natural to got dull with same person as a human being…

and thought that "do I have to be stuck with this girl in my life? why this girl doesn't meet any other boys?"
during that 5 years I was not very good boy friend to her....I met another girls I thought she didn't know but she knew everything all but She didn't mention any thing to me when I came back to her.


and finally I left her without saying a word to her....and had my second girl friend....I know I was bad...
To tell the truth, She was a friend of my first girl friend.....I know I was the worst.....

In fact, the second one also knew I was her friend's boy friend but we went to on the prohibited love, with enjoyment or kind of thrill.

Second one was exactly the opposite of the first one.
very pale skin, not active at all, didn't like sport, small eyes with glasses, looked like bookworms. one thing was same….taller than me…

I think that I loved her more than she love me.
If it says, the total amount of love between man and woman is 100, I loved the second one 60 and she loved me 40.
While I loved the first one 40 and she loved me 60.

we were on date for 1 year and
1 year later I met her, I had to do my military service....I was in the 치악 Mountain in Kangwon Province...
You know, out of sight out of mind....but how come less than even 1 year????
But how come even without the Dear John letter…..

I was very sad…depressed but not by the second one….but by the first one and
I realized that How much, how deeply I had hurt her mind.
How valuable the person who really love me and care of me
How much gratitude I should have given to her when she was around me.

She didn’ come without say a words or letter to me that much loved her?

I escaped from my army base at one Saturday night dare a punishment but I thought when she saw me in front of her
She would change her mind at once.
I changed military uniform to civilian cloths which I had hided at day time and by train from 원주 to 청량리 and subway..
I finally got her house and called her to see...
When I met her in front of her house....I saw that she did not welcome me at all she wasn't surprised, even wasn't worry how I came here.
She simply and very calmly said
"I have another boy friend....he was so good to me and I was so lonely I can't not help accepting him as a boy friend"
I said..."Okay, it is understandable...That is it...."

without any more words, I got back to my army base at that night.......


on the train back to 원주, I was thinking about my girl friend, not the second one but the first one


(Conclusion) 1:00

Let go back to the first question I made at the beginning of my speech
When you do think you are ready to get marry?

My answer to this question is that

At least you have kicked away your boy/ girl friend one time
and you have been kicked by the one you loved.

Then now you ready to get marry
Because now you can understand that how valuable the person you love
And the person who loves you.

Stay in love
Be thankful for love