I personally categorized human’s life into 2 chapters in terms of love; Chapter 1 and Chapter 2 and they are clearly divided by the time of marriage.
So before marriage is Chapter 1 and after marriage is Chapter 2.
Today I would like to focus on the chapter 1.
If you are in the chapter 2, please pay your attention to my speech and if you have other opinion on it, please make other speech on it later…^^
I’ll tell you one story.
You know 김어준, the president of 딴지일보 very much social criticizing news paper, he is currently doing a consultant to youth and giving a advice to young generation especially ladies. He said more than 80% of requests he got from ladies between middle of 20th and late of 30th goes like this…
“I have a boy friend now….he is good and kind to me but not sure he is good enough for marriage or …. I’m going out with one man but I have another man in my mind both of them have good job, similar income etc. but I don’t who is better for me so could you give me your advice….” Like this…
김어준, the most smart and sarcastic journalist, he can give very clear advice on these kind of request just in 3 words…… “I Don’t Know”
I think it is the wisest advice he could give, right?
Frankly speaking, isn’t it ridiculous to ask somebody else who is fit with me even yourself don’t know who is right for you?
So one question to you who is in the chapter 1.
Who is your ideal? Do you know exactly what is your most suitable and ideal person for your spouse? Wealth, beauty, intelligence, kindness, consideration, humors or wit…etc.
Which one do you concern most?
If you don’t know who is your right? Then what kind of action you need to take?
Yes, you need to, you have to meet people, many of them
I could say the more the better
If other people call you a playboy or playgirl, let’s accept it and it is worth to take.
I will show you why playboy or playgirl is worthy for your life.
Here you go
See this lifeline and age 25 until 45(now marriage timing is getting later and later with various reasons) would be a grace time for marriage up to your choice.
If you meet the boy or girl from your 20 then time of chapter 1 would be 15 years but chapter 2 would be 50 years so the chapter 2 is obviously longer and looks more important superficially, but chapter 2 is totally depend on Chapter 1, who would be your spouse…right?
Do you think all of queens in this world are happy with her queen-ship?
I don’t think so, only the King is suitable with her then the Queen is happy.
Spouse is that much important in one’s life then Why not invests time and efforts in Love Chapter1?
Then what are the basic rules of Love Chapter 1, the principle of Playboy / Playgirl
“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish”
This is universal and ultimate principal applicable to any situation spoken by the late Mr. Steven Jobs
1. Be kind
Be kind to anyone who shows an interest in you
2. Stay Hungry
Whenever someone ask you go out, accept it (unless he is a totally stranger)
3. 3 bullets theory
Do not judge the person by one time meetings; meet him at least 3 times
But during the 3 times meeting you have to try hard to find out what aspect of him is fit with you and which aspect is not
I don’t mean that you have to analysis him thoroughly like autopsy.
It is rather the discovering yourself….you have not been aware of so far.
4. Be decisive
After using up the 3 bullets all, then you have to make a decision whether this love chapter 1 keeps going or not firmly! Do not hesitate or delay of you.
If you did not have strong chemistry within the 3 times then you won’t forever. He is not the person in your Love Chapter 1.
5. Be cool to say goodbye with smile
Even if you have been going out with one man for several months or years, you have frequent quarrel or problem-some relationship then be brave to say stop and say good bye to him with smile.
Do not insist keep going because you’ve been come that much.
Anything is not now, it is not forever….
6. Be Foolish
If you finished one circle back to stay hungry
Do not do double…that is not a Playboy or Playgirl….That is sin!
Love in Chapter 1 is a learning process to know who you are and discovering yourself.
If this discovering is called as a playboy , Then let’s be a playboy~~~~
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